Alcohol the Fake Friend

We are living in times where drinking to excess is acceptable to many. It’s almost the norm. Party people right through to one solitary person drinking at home alone. How sad it is when getting drunk is worn as a badge of honour. How deeply distressing to see this happening everywhere. A harmless few drinks with friends and the odd tipple now blown up into a full scale relationship; you and alcohol. Ultimately it’s a poison, it’s a depressant. ‘I’m fine, I’m used to it, it doesn’t affect me because I’ve built up a tolerance’. Well look again, are you really fine?

So many of us are seeing alcohol as a treat for a hard day, a long week, a tough contract to complete, a nightmare boss, dealing with the children’s tantrums etc etc etc. Wine opened, glass poured, sometime later (that time getting shorter) another glass poured. To start with you just had one or two glasses a night; a ‘reward’ for the day. Then you finished the bottle each night. Then you had two bottles. Maybe it’s Whiskey or Gin or Bourbon. Then you discovered you couldn’t stop, caught in a net you didn’t see coming.

Perhaps you hide the empties? Perhaps you hide the full bottles? Maybe you react badly to anyone pointing out your ‘problem’, your ‘over drinking’. Have you lost touch with a caring friend or relative that had the balls to talk to you straight about your self destructive drinking? Is everything falling apart as you continue to drink, unable to stop or even think about stopping? Is the fear of stopping just too much to cope with on top of the actual drinking itself?

You don’t feel ill yet so; ‘I’m fine, what’s the fuss’?

You can’t see the damage that is going on below the surface. You are not getting away with it so stop believing that you are. Your body is full of toxins, you are literally destroying yourself mind, body and spirit as these toxins do what toxins do unchecked, how fast is up to you. You’re looking older, your skin has lost it’s glow. Your eyes have stopped shining. And no one is buying the fresh smell of mints on your breath any more.

You have a 1000 reasons why you don’t want to, or need to stop, but they are all myths. You say that you can’t stop but this is a myth too. There are so many people out there to help you. Help you to find a place of freedom from alcohol, a place of freedom and peace, away from the emotion of fear. A place where you can be you again and make changes in your life to create a happier life, a happier you than before. It takes courage and the knowing that there is a better life possible…and there is.

Awareness is your first wake up call, getting your attention to see that you are not where you want to be and that numbing your pain is no longer more important than living a brighter life and allowing happiness to creep back in. If you do wake up you will begin to understand that where you are is so painful that you are willing to make changes to help yourself. There is no blame or shame, many have been where you are now and walked out of it. Your past is not your full story and you are 100% capable of ending the separation from your true self and turning fear into self love and self trust.  You can have feelings, dreams and hopes for a better day, week, year, lifetime.

You know that you will not find freedom or compassion in a bottle, how long will it be until you take control once more and start that journey home to you? Reach out. Take baby steps if you must, but start to walk out of the darkness you have found yourself in, out towards the light.

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